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  what buzz word from the jw's do you hate & why?

  by Sabin in

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  so my hubby has been on a bit of a roll about the jdubs, we were talking a lot about them & he said the buzz word he hate's the most is "worldly" why?

  because he say's "with that one word they have condemned (according to their believes) a person as being worthy of nothing but death.

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  "Striving", as in "striving after the wind"-- makes everything seems absolutely f**king pointless. Close second-- "marriage mate".
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  What's the point?

  by punkofnice in

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  i mean, i don't want to be miserable or anything, but what's the bloody point of it all?.

  since i left the watchtower cult, i have come to realise that god cannot possibly exist...and if a god exists...god is indifferent to humankind as the least.. in 100 years time i'll be gone.

  kaput.

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  Sail Away

  HI Punk-- sorry you are feeling down and a bit lonely. One of the things that haunted me for decades as a JW was the question, "What is my purpose in life?" We were told that 'vindicating Jehovah's sovereignty and sanctifying His name' was our purpose. I thought, "Maybe that's His purpose, but it's not mine!"

  I think we have to find our own purpose and meaning in our lives. After giving up so many opportunities in life as a JW and having lost so much when we left its tyranny, it's easy to fall into feelings of hopelessness and of having wasted so much of our limited time here.

  For me, it's important to love and be loved and, more importantly, to have broken the multi-generational cycle of abuse in my family that left me vulnerable to cult recruitment. My kids know I love them unconditionally, and I know they love me. When I see how much my daughter loves her little boy, I know I have done my job here on this planet. Everything else is a bonus-- a beautiful sunrise, sunset or moon rise, a beautiful sea breeze to sail by and friends to enjoy it all with.

  Keep looking for ways to connect with and help others, even if it is simply to smile to a stranger. Keep sharing your gift of music if it brings you happiness. This Meh feeling will pass. I know it well. Thoughts are only thoughts, and feelings are only feelings, they come and go, and they don't define who we are.

  I love Terry's post! Listen to his wisdom.

  Diane
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  Saturday Morning Vibes

  by freemindfade in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  its saturday morning here on the east coast of america.

  i haven't been out in service in probably getting close to two years.

  i wake up every saturday extremely happy and thankful im not getting up to go f-ck up my morning and my neighbors morning, not today, not ever again.

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  Sunday mornings are for pancakes followed by walking on the beach with Mr. Sail Away and Emma (stage left;). Salt, sea and sand are a whole lot better than a lifeless KH any day of the week!
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  Saturday Morning Vibes

  by freemindfade in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  its saturday morning here on the east coast of america.

  i haven't been out in service in probably getting close to two years.

  i wake up every saturday extremely happy and thankful im not getting up to go f-ck up my morning and my neighbors morning, not today, not ever again.

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  My Saturdays start with a leisurely breakfast with Mr. Sail Away, followed by a yoga class. Five years without field service. I auxiliary pioneered for The Memorial in 2011 as my swan song, had my light bulb moment in May, and sailed away after the District Convention on July 3rd. 42 years of wasted Saturdays was enough.
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  Saturday Let the Games Begin

  by Poztate in

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  the start of a new memorial season is upon us.

  saturday is the day for the start of the invites to look but not touch the bread and wine.

  the "observer class" is a belief unique to jehovah's witnesses.. along with the invite to the masses a special effort is being made this year by the elders to invite all the df's, da's and faders.. along with the invite a copy of the rtj will be left with them.. naturally we will still be treated as pariah's if we do attend but it is the thought that counts.. i am of the "fader class" as i don't wish to rock the boat with my wife and extended family.

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  I don't think they will dare to darken my doorstep. I threatened, by certified mail from my attorney, to sue any JW who attempts to contact me in any official organizational capacity. They don't want me back. Trust me.
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  This is Just getting Ridiculous and out of hand with the Borg

  by MrsR-Awaken in

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  2. friends

  saw this on reddit it was posted by user morgan_sparlock .

  to me honestly this would of been prohibited 10 years ago, but now every dub is obsessed with this website, it's everywhere even a damn iphone cover... ooh they don't approve of idolatry ooh no they don't accept cross veneration thats bullshit to me!!!

  its getting to a point that they are venerating this website (company logo) it's their version of the cross.

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  Vomit worthy.
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  Music Video: Would Jesus Wear a Rolex on JW Broadcasting? - PARODY

  by cappytan in

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  this took quite a while this evening.

  so worth it though.

  hope you enjoy!

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  Fantastic job!
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  Books I read when I deprogrammed

  by OrphanCrow in

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  blondie suggested someone start a thread with a list of books that are valuable to read when exiting the jws.. i will start.. i left the jws way back in the early 70s and didn't actually deprogram until into the 80s.. one of the first books i read was "the orwellian world of jehovah's witnesses" by gary and heather botting.

  canadian exjws from calagary.

  an excellent book and one that still resonates with young people today.

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  After jwfacts.com and Crisis of Conscience:

  Shepard the Flock of God (2010 Edition)

  The God Delusion, by Richard Dawkins

  Captives of a Concept (Anatomy of an Illusion), by Don Cameron

  Leaving the Fold, by Marlene Winell

  Books that later helped me to understand cult mind control:

  Combatting Cult Mind Control: The #1 Best-Selling Guide to Protection Rescue and Recovery from Destructive Cults (2010 Edition), by Steven Hassan

  Releasing the Bonds, Empowering People to Think for Themselves, by Steven Hassan

  Freedom of Mind, Helping Loved Ones Leave Controlling People, Cults and Beliefs, by Steven Hassan

  Even later in my personal recovery:

  Take Back Your Life, Recovering from Cults and Abusive Relationships, by Janja Lalich and Madeleine Tobias
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  What Was The Silliest "Offense" That You Were Counseled For?

  by minimus in

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  when i was a teenager, i was told by an elder that because i smiled a lot and was known for my good sense of humor, that i should come across as "more serious".

  so before i was appointed a ms, while in my late teens, i transformed myself into a much more "serious" brother.. were you ever told that you needed to work on something that you knew was stoopid?.

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  Counseled for breastfeeding (completely covered with a blanket) in the main auditorium because it was too tempting and distracting for the brothers carrying the mics. The elders wanted me to nurse in the ladies room. I told the elders when they started having lunch in the mens room, I would nurse my baby in the ladies room. We compromised, and the second school was turned into a baby care room.
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  Years ago son raised a few years as a JW. Now struggles with depression

  by Check_Your_Premises in

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  2. family

  background:.

  i spent some time here awhile back as an unbelieving mate of a jw wife.

  i learned a lot, and was able to be supportive and understanding when she decided to leave the jw.. unfortunately, my son seems to have internalized many of the jw teachings.

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  Sail Away

  The nightmares in particular are interesting to me? Did they follow a basic theme?

  I have post-traumatic stress disorder, not all JW related, but three of my recurring nightmares were.

  One was an evil-looking eye that stared unblinking at me from down a long corridor. As a JW I felt someone was always watching me (God, Satan, parents, elders, etc.), and I never felt good enough.

  The second was about getting beaten and tortured in a Nazi concentration camp. This possibility was emphasized pre-1975.

  The last was of me and my unbelieving family being engulfed in flames at Armageddon.

  Sparrowdown is right. Your son needs education. After reading JW facts, Crisis of Conscience and The God Delusion, my nightmares stopped, never to return.

  I had years of counseling before exiting that were worthless. JWs are taught to never speak about "spiritual matters" with anyone but elders. Therapists can't help under these circumstances.

  The therapy that did help me greatly post -exit was Dialectical Behavior Therapy. It is skills based and helped me greatly in making my way in a world that was so foreign to me. It helps tremendously with identifying black and white, all or nothing thinking, teaches assertive communication and mindfulness to help with distress tolerance.

  PM me if you like.

  Diane